I just had a surprisingly pleasant and civilized conversation with a Destiel “hater.” I had asked her to stop tagging Destiel hate as “Destiel” and this was her response.
I have to say, it kind of makes sense. I’m not saying it’s good to tag hate. I really do not approve of that. But it is fairly logical that, while we do not want to see Destiel hate (which we hate), they do not want to see Destiel (which they hate) in the general show tags either.
I don’t think it’s wrong to tag Destiel in SPN, because to me, it is a part of the show. But this is just the other side of things. We don’t want to see things we hate. They don’t want to see things they hate.
It just kind of made sense.
Still. I don’t like tagging hate. It’s just adding fuel to the fire.
But this seemed worth sharing, and she said I could, so…
Also, I’m tagging this as Destiel and SPN so both parties can see. Not to be a hypocrite.
Let me start by saying that I don’t tag anything apart from really innocuous stuff that relates to Castiel, and Castiel only (as you might guess “Castiel” is pretty much the only tag I use). I am not interested in shipping wars or character hate, so I keep whatever I’ve got to say to my blog. I have opinions on Dean and Sam, too, but I usually don’t share them in public because people might get upset by finding I’m a Cas!girl.
This is a sad situation. It has nothing to do with respect, but with a small minority of people who are totally unable to face there are fans who enjoy the show for different reasons than they do. If you don’t like strawberry ice-cream, would you ask your local ice-cream parlor to hide it so you don’t have to see it exists?
Destiel, Wincest, Castiel, or whatever characters and pairings people ship don’t hurt anyone. If you don’t want to see them because they personally offend you, then get Tumblr Savior. It’s that easy. But this is YOUR (the ship-hater’s) issue, not ours, and definitely not a problem that concerns the fandom at large.
Wait, so their whole reason for tagging hate is basically school yard tactics? That’s… incredibly mature. (Yes, that was sarcasm.) “I don’t like that you put something I don’t like in tags I follow, so I’m going to tag blatant hate against your thing to get back at you.” Brilliant. Something tells me this person doesn’t respect it as much as they claim.
I think something a lot of people forget is that tags are also a tracking system. So when I make a meta post about Dean and Cas and their relationship, I tag it as all three for my own personal searching/tracking references in the future. I’m not “putting it in the Dean tag” for all Dean fans to see, assuming they all ship Destiel. And when I do go to the Dean or Jensen tag, I fully expect to see Wincest and J2. And you know what? I’m mature enough to accept that for the not-a-big-deal that it is.
This works both ways though. I guarantee that a lot of the people tagging hate don’t realize it’s going in to the tracked tags. Or they realize it, but that’s not why they are putting it there.
I like getting notes on my posts, so I tag them with everything. If people don’t like it, they can block me. And I block haters. Simple.